Leap into Love (Misery Loves Company Strategy) Part 2 of 2

When I was a child my mother would say “Misery loves company!”  The first time I heard it, it seemed abstract, but, I quickly learned it meant I was demonstrating a hurtful behavior.  As if by magic, I would  immediately, change my behavior, to please my mother.  I wanted her love and acceptance and I realized I always felt better because I switched my thoughts to love and my behavior improved too!  Sometimes I would hear it said of another person which let me compare their behavior to my past behavior to confirm what I had already figured out.  My bad behavior brought me fear of being discovered and dishonesty to the relationship.  Good behavior brought me joy, peace, honesty and pure love.  I knew when I felt best and others did too! 

The saying was judgmental of a behavior, I was demonstrating to others, and I was smart enough to know I could change the behavior.  When I changed the behavior life improved.  I never felt threatened or controlled by the saying because it brought honesty to the present moment.  My loving mother wanted me to enjoy life (loving the moment) rather than focus on what I might not currently have or what someone else had (fearing lack). 

This loving strategy worked wonders.  Whether I was selfish with a toy, while playing with others, or complaining at a store about wanting something, I learned to immediately focus on my emotional feelings.  I always found I was not feeling good about something outside of me, and my mind would then focus on how I could change that “icky” feeling.  I knew I liked feeling good rather than “icky”.  That the saying worked wonders in my wonder years! 

Life was full of wonder when I chose to feel good rather than selfishly playing with a toy or thinking about something I didn’t have.  I was able to enjoy what I had with my friends around me.  When I really wanted something I created a way to get it.   I willingly cleaned neighbor’s houses, did ironing, mowed yards and even cleaned up doggy-do to earn money to “get over” my own misery.  I still remember how great I felt earning money with my “Super Dooper Pooper Scooper” invention.  Fifty cents here and there provided my need, or gifts for others, and I felt good as I often shared my purchase.  I was creating value and value was coming to me.  I was the Queen of Do!  I felt “all growed up” and enjoyed every moment in those relationships serving other’s needs. 

I still have many of those relationships.  When life’s little struggles happen I can call on them, and, recall my mother’s voice saying, “Misery loves company!” I immediately  feel good and enjoy the moment and those around me.   I like being in good company, how about you?  

Try this strategy when you are feeling lack instead of love.  I say, “Try it you might love it!”  Shake-off your misery and take the leap of love today!