As adults we do not need to control each other.  Letting go of control on another, and, no longer allowing another to control you, allows for creativity and pleasurable moments.  As children we need protected so creativity flourishes.  As adults freedom allows creativity to re-surface and our creative imaginations can add value to our relationships.  Freedom and creativity move a relationship into a new dimension, a service-based relationship. 

Are you ready to move from a power-based relationship to a service-based relationship?  If so, simply look back to joy filled moments.  Remember how good it felt to create together, and, how much fun it was in the beginning.  Find ways to serve your partner again to build happiness, and, before you know it, you will find your own needs served more often too!   Be captivating (fascinating) not controlling to add value to life.

“Put on a happy face!” may be a simple statement, but, the feelings behind it make it last.   Do you find, when you can’t grab a smile, you are hanging out in stress? 

Decisions happen all the time, and, only you can ultimately be responsible for your life and your daily feelings.  If you fail to decide, you fail to live naturally.  You have a mind capable of deciding matters for yourself, just like your boss, loved one, or a judge.  So, why do we look to others to decide:  what movie to see, what food to eat, what music to listen to, what perfume smells good, which fabric feels good in clothing.  We even ask others what:  hairstyle to wear, car to drive, church to go to, if any, and, what to do with the time when we are away from the job?  

Joy deprivation comes from failing to use our five (5) senses and those eight (8) hours that are meant for proper play!  What do you do with those hours that are independent of sleep or working to make a living?  If you get good at using them you can soon find joy.  Start playing at something during that recess period.  Make a scrapbook, put photos in an album, knit, paint, write poetry or that life story.  What matters is that you start.  Make a decision today to gain joy.  You will go to sleep tonight knowing more than you did when you started your day.    Quit withholding your own success, as, joy deprivation may be more harmful to your health than sleep deprivation.  Have some fun with this!  Put on a happy face by building it today.

Do you think it is important to keep doing those things to keep your “loved one”?  Would you agree that love has no age limits, but, believe it is wise to integrate “age-appropriate” tricks into your bag? 

What would you consider an integrated action that would work for all ages?  Do you believe that one of the greatest needs of a human being is to be recognized?  Do you suppose that is a life-long need?  How do you continue to be creative to ensure that need is met?   

Would you consider what your “special one” does for a hobby, a living, or likes to eat?  Do you know their favorite color?  Could you include that in some special way each week?  Do you think a favorite color changes over time?  If so, what was your favorite color and have you changed in time?  Do you offer the same thing day-in-and-day-out to your loved one?   Is it time to integrate with your loved one’s likes, so, you remain the one who your loved one can joyfully say “You color my world!”

Once one understands the difference between a value creator and a value destroyer, behaviors can improve, as life becomes more honest and integrated in the love of value creation.  Cutting through illusions that are appear to be done in love, one no longer accepts that which is not valuable.  

This discipline (ever present value creation) must exist whether one is campaigning to gain the “love of your life” or the love of a country full of people.  See through the illusions to discover whether love exists within the individual and has been reflected outward through value creation.  Has the person created values that have been constructive or destructive?  Only then can we honestly cast a vote.  Why would we bring anyone into our life that didn’t bring good things to life?  With the Prime Law as the premise for the Twelve Visions Party, we are all, individually guaranteed the conditions that will allow love to flow into and out of the Whitehouse.

Integrating with the Neothink® literature gave me iron grip control and enormous advantages.  What I valued the most about the multigenerational manuscripts was for the first time in my life I was learning the “secrets” regarding how to be treated precious by my man.  That is what I have secretly always desired.  Who do you get your advice from?  Unfortunately my mom and dad had an unhappy relationship very similar to the recent headlines regarding “Tiger Woods” except Tiger had many more zeros behind his name.  After mom was diagnosed with breast cancer the “nightmare” began.  When mom passed I moved out on my own immediately and the nightmare escalated because my first roommate ended up being a “hit man”.  After that I was never comfortable living with anyone else so I hung out with the “jet set” fast women and fast cars after my work hours.   

Through reading the multigenerational manuscripts regarding the preciousness of a woman to her man I changed because that is want I secretly wanted.  I smile inside when I see the latest issue of Essence magazine’s cover with a romantic picture of Steve Harvey and his beautiful wife. 

Vision Seven from Mark Hamilton’s Twelve Visions World is my inspiration.  The Twelve Visions Party is the vehicle that will finally enable me to live the life that I am meant to live happily loving my “superman”. 

Happy Holidays!!!

 Linda Joy

Jeff wrote: Freedom and I have been together 10 years this summer.  She came in as a baby in 1998 with two broken wings. Her left wing doesn’t open all the way even after surgery; it was broken in 4 places.   She’s my baby.   When Freedom came in she could not stand and both wings were broken. She was emaciated and covered in lice. We made the decision to give her a chance at life,   so I took her to the vet’s office.  

 From then on, I was always around her. We had her in a huge dog carrier with the top off, and it was loaded up with shredded newspaper for her to lie in… I used to sit and talk to her, urging her to live, to fight; and she would lie there looking at me with those big brown eyes. We also had to tube feed her for weeks.   This went on for 4-6 weeks, and by then she still couldn’t stand… It got to the point where the decision was made to euthanize her if she couldn’t stand in a week.  You know you don’t want to cross that line between torture and Rehab, and it looked like death was winning.   She was going to be put down that Friday, and I was supposed to come in on that Thursday afternoon. 

I didn’t want to go to the center that Thursday, because I couldn’t bear the thought of her being euthanized; but I went anyway, and when I walked in everyone was grinning from ear to ear.  I went immediately back to her cage; and there she was, standing on her own, a big beautiful eagle.  She was ready to live.  I was just about in tears by then. That was a very good day.

We knew she could never fly, so the director asked me to glove train her. I got her used to the glove, and then to jesses, and we started doing education programs for schools in western Washington.  We wound up in the newspapers, radio (believe it or not) and some TV.   Miracle Pets even did a show about us.

In the spring of 2000, I was diagnosed with non-hodgkins lymphoma. I had stage 3, which is not good (one major organ plus everywhere), so I wound up doing 8 months of chemo.   Lost the hair – the whole bit.   I missed a lot of work. When I felt good enough, I would go to Survey and take Freedom
out for walks. Freedom would also come to me in my dreams and help me fight the cancer. This happened time and time again.

Fast forward to November 2000, the day after Thanksgiving.   I went in for my last checkup.  I was told that if the cancer was not all gone after 8 rounds of chemo, then my last option was a stem cell transplant. Anyway, they did the tests, and I had to come back Monday for the results.  I went in Monday, and I was told that all the cancer was gone.

Oh Yes, The Miracles of Life!   Thank You Freedom, and Thank You Jeff.

My Love To You Always

 I thought about how our family communicates.  How honestly sharing, we allow love and happiness and pleasurable, relaxing moments.  When focused on the pain of loss, we feel associated sadness and fear in a tense moment.  We each choose whether to diminish the emotional pain by immediately returning to love and happiness or whether to bury ourselves in another’s pain and hurt.  Why do some handle loss better than others?  Since life changes with the loss of someone (their control on us) let’s look at how emotions affect our lives.

 What are the basics of life?  Why are we here?  What do we human beings offer to life?  What do we take from life?  In this emotional balancing act, you’re either a “What are you getting out of life” (another’s desires dictating your life) or a “Life, be in it!” person (your choices dictate only your life)?  Who would you rather follow?

 Since we are capable of thinking for ourselves we must always do so.  Concentrating on how a situation affects ourselves, and not on how the situation affects another, we find better solutions.  This may seem an odd approach because we often help others to take eyes off ourselves.  Yet, honest self-reflection reveals we rarely solve other’s problems, and if we do we have solved our own. To feel the emotions of love and happiness, necessary to emotional well-being, each must solve problems. 

 Life is an emotional experience.  Love and fear are each contributing emotions, so, we must understand them to receive the gifts of life.  Which emotional state are you drawn to?

 Would you like to change your life in 3 short days?  Great!  You must notice which emotion receives more attention.  On a piece of paper place an l (love) or f (fear) beside each waking hour for 3 days.  Tallying them, you finally understand how you think.  Thinking creates your reality and only you can change your thoughts.  No one else can change your life, not a lover, child, parent, counselor, minister nor political leader.  So, take charge today!

 Deciding or failing to decide, you see through someone else’s eyes of fear or your own eyes of love?  Eyes of fear create warfare while eyes of love allow peace.  Fear is about power and control or the lack of power and control.  Love is about peace and understanding: first for self, then for another, each deserving love, happiness, and peace. We thrive in love and happiness or fail in fear and sadness.

 Attempt to be fair to yourself.  Freedom is only an emotion away and you can celebrate in love and happiness.  Whether you make the choice to be full of love or empty in fear others will experience the same.

We can choose to accept what we can’t change (others), change what we can (self), and love in the present moment, so that life continually grows sweeter and more valuable to us. 

When you focus on lack, you are in fear and will gather more fear.  When you instead choose to focus on love the present moment most often will be peaceful for self and others. 

At the moment we make decisions we often lock ourselves and others into fear of a past mistake or a future of scarcity.  Warfare begins due to this fear of lack, so does welfare.  Becoming aware of our own consciousness we are better equipped to make better choices, especially since we humans want and crave acceptance. 

We yearn to be accepted by others and to have the blessings of life.  An infant is proof of that.  Mimicking those around, the infant feels acceptance and continues to learn and grow.  We witness the toddler’s determination to gather more abilities and skills to be just like the adults.  We often swell with pride as the “little one” learns to fill a need, partly because the toddler’s dependence on us becomes less demanding of our precious crowded time.  

Soon, we may discover we miss that need of attention (lack of time together) from us and we often create situations that place us together (control of time).  Sometimes the adult’s control of youth brings additional opportunity for continued physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual growth.  Unfortunately, there are times when adults instead place children in situations that hinder their physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual growth. With observation we can quickly determine whether the missing need that we tried to fill was beneficial (filling their need) or detrimental (filling our need to control).  We can do this with all decisions. 

Now, knowing that you can consciously decide to love or fear (feel lack) in the present moment, would you have lived your life differently?  Hoping for a different life is not enough to make it so.  However, you can now choose to make more decisions based in love rather than fear of lack.  Stop your mind from focusing on a past failure (self or others) and instead choose a fond loving moment, then create another moment in love.  Next, we will look at a strategy, my mother taught me at a young age, which still helps me get my thinking straight still today.  Let’s take the leap!